The regrets of the dying. Doctor Brani Wear, an Australian palliative care nurse was studying these patients in their last eight weeks of life and wrote a book about it which got picked up by the Guardian and the Huffington Post and then it got turned into a blog piece that I read years ago. Very powerful concept that has stuck with me for a very long time
Authenticity. Who we are. Doctor Seuss says, "Today you are you, that is truer than true. There is no one alive that is you-er than you." And maybe it's for kids to read but really for adults to understand; are we ourselves as we show up, or are we showing up as what we want to impress other people with?
The secret to success is two steps, two steps, with maybe a third hidden step. The secret to success is simple. Number one, show up. Just show up. Whatever that looks like to you, whatever it is you need to do, wherever it is you need to go, just show up. That's the hardest part. The second step is to do your best.
Equanimity. So, this concept of balance, right? If we look at our lives, we notice that every day, every month, every year is really just balance. We're always balancing work and life and relationships and finances and all these different things in life. One of my favorite people in all of history is Marcus Aurelius, a famous Roman philosopher. He wrote the book, Meditations.
Who are you spending time with? Jim Rome says that you are the average of the five people you spend the most time with. If you look in your life right now, your closest social circles, the people you're spending most of your time with you will realize that you are more than likely the average of those five.
Show me your schedule and I'll show you your values. So there have been countless studies done on successful people to learn about what it is that they did that allowed them to find success in whatever field that they found success in and what they found more often than not is, these successful people simply scheduled the things that were most important to them.
Just enough pressure to grow, so when we want to build our muscles, we go to the gym, and we put just enough external pressure, or external stimuli, resistance on them, in order for them to grow.When we want to expand our minds, we read books, we watch documentaries, we find experiences, and we start to curate our environment in a way that expands our mind, and that's what life is about.
So there's a famous story about this student who comes up to this wise monk and he's going through some challenging times in his life, he's going through some things that he finds frustrating and he finds them hard to deal with and he comes up to this really wise monk and he says, "Monk, I need your help."
“What one CAN be, one MUST be.” – Abraham Maslow
If you’ve ever taken a psychology class, then you’ve probably heard of Abraham Maslow and his “Hierarchy of Needs.”
Have you ever woken up in the morning and felt like something was off? In psychology terms, that feeling is called a cognitive dissonance.